Thankful

What a year! Like wow. I remember starting this year as if it were yesterday but it wasn't.

You know looking back at 2014, I'm grateful for how God had kept not just me but my family too. When I say family I'm also including those amazing people God has allowed me to meet. The friends that I now consider family.

The things that have happened this year have been somewhat surreal. I didn't think I'd  make it through but I did and God has been so faithful.

I'm so EXCITED about 2015!!! It's a new season. Another opportunity to make my mark on the world. God has something big planned for me. Who am I not to trust Him? My Father knows what's best

Thank you God for being God. For loving me, keeping me and never letting me go.

LET'S GOOOOOO!!!

You know you've grown

I was thinking about this the other day during on of my gratitude sessions and it's really helped me know where I am and what I still need to work on. 

You know you've grown up not only by the big obvious things in your life but  by all the small things that you sometimes fail to notice. Below I've listed things that I noticed in myself.

You know you've grown when:

~It's no longer about "I" but about "we"

~ I no longer compare myself and my life to someone else's because God didn't create me in the image of others but in His own perfect  image 

~I've realised that without God and His perfect love, I wouldn't be here today 

~ I  appreciate all the people that have walked through my  life and left an impression. Whether good or bad they all taught me something valuable 

~ I can forgive a person unconditionally  without them asking for it 

~I can forgive myself fully and understand that I will make mistakes 

~ I no longer worry about tomorrow and miss out on today but love today and the moment I'm in. I appreciate the small moments

~ My priorities  have changed along with my  mindset towards life 

~ what used to make me cry now makes me laugh 

~ what I thought was important isn't important anymore because I've found what truly matters to me.  

~ I live in the now and what is than the tomorrow and "what if".

We all go through things but at the end of the day, we've gone THROUGH them. We don't remain in them. The difference I've found between people that have true joy and just live off one happy moment to the next is the fact that joyful people are anchored in God. Instead of dwelling what they've been through, they grow from their experiences. 

Every experience is a teacher to help you grow. Embrace it all. You can only be better tomorrow for overcoming and learning from today. 

Trust in God 

Trust in His plan for you. 

He's already given you all the tools for life 

Discover them and live the life meant for you. 

Powerful

I love this post

Tyler Perry

GUARD YOUR HEART AND MIND

If you can get this, this will change your life…

One of the keys to success is to be able to guard your heart. Now, usually when someone says guard your heart they are talking about keeping yourself from heartbreak. Although this is important (as long as you don’t go overboard… but that’s another conversation) that isn’t what I’m talking about. When we are born into this world we enter with such a pure heart but as we grow older, situations, circumstances and people tend to make us change. Now I know it is nearly impossible to keep a childlike innocence in our hearts all of our lives, especially after people have betrayed, lied, mistreated and downright been the devil. Trust me when I tell you, I have seen it all. I have been there big time. If you’re like me, you’ve been there too. But if this is your situation I want you to know two very important things about those moments of heartbreak

Number one, learn the lesson in it. See how it will work together for your good, because it will. Once you do, it’s easier to forgive and move on. Secondly, and this is just as important as the first one, you must not let that person or people change your heart. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are a giver and someone you have given to misuses your gift; don’t stop giving… just give to someone else. If you are a person that loves people and someone you love hates you, don’t stop loving… love someone else. Eventually you will find people who appreciate your kindness and your love. Remember this; lots of people have been conditioned to not be able to accept purity of heart. They can’t take it in. most times it’s not even their fault. It’s just what has happened to them on their journey in life. But don’t let them turn you into one of them. There will be a lot of people in your life who will not appreciate your pureness of heart. If they hurt you, don’t stop being you… just be you with someone else.

Why is this so important? Because God blesses you according to what is in your heart. If you are being kind, giving, loving and sharing because it is in your heart and you are not looking for anything in return, then that is a heart that God wants to bless. If you change who you are because you’ve been hurt, then you’ve changed the thing that God wants to bless you according to, and that is your heart. The people who hurt you are not worth that. You can lose everything that you have, but don’t let anybody change your heart

Joy

Your happiness is dependent on what happens in your life. Joy is not. When you have joy, nothing and no one can take it away from you because you know that there is a great, big limitless God who is right by your side and ALWAYS has your back.

Happiness is external. Joy is internal.

Reintroduction

I bet you're probably wondering what this post in about. Frankly I don't even have a title for it so I'm going to reintroduce myself to you.

My name is Melissa. Most know as Mel. I am a single mother to the most amazing 2 year old known to man( Yes, you're included in that). A few years ago, I made some horrible choices. I stopped listening to that still small voice that was my navigator for so long. I had completely ignored God and walked off His path. I didn't even know who I was becoming and I didn't like it but I didn't try to change it. I was so angry and "rebellious" that I ended up in the most horrible of situations with my ex boyfriend that not only left me pregnant but also broken spiritually, mentally and emotionally.

I've gone through quite some stuff in my life but that experience was on a new level. Who I was back then was lost to put it simply. I was angry with how everything was just falling apart at home and with school that when I met someone, who truly speaking was not even my type, I got into a relationship with him thinking my eyes were wide open but I was blind. He was everything I said I would never date  but I did because I was weak and liked the attention he was giving me but that was all a farce. A brilliantly conceived delusion especially on my part. I mean I actually took him seriously when he claimed to want to marry me. a total lie! But anyway that's where I was. After all the stuff hit the fan, I ended up losing some family and friends I never thought I would. I felt dirty. I was broken and I had no hope.

It's taken me a long time to,

1. Get over my ex and what happened

2. Get myself fixed and whole again

3. Reconnect to my Source(God)

4. Make peace with my mistakes and find the blessings in all that mess, and
5. Discover who I am (which is an ever continuing journey)

While on this journey, I've come to know who my Father is. Because He is therefore I am. There's this fire burning in me now that has never existed before. God has something big in store for my life that I'm not sure I'll be ready for it but I'm fully trusting in him. So here's who Mel is.

Mel is,

1. A beloved child of God

2. Fearfully and wonderfully made

3. Made perfect, whole and complete
4. Loved, cherished and appreciated
5. Strong, beautiful and amazing
6. Limitless because my Father didn't create me to be limited
7. Not perfect but being perfected by my Father
8. Appointed, anointed and approved

This list is getting longer everyday

Writing Again..

It really has been a while since I've written anything, let alone  posted it but I've really felt that I need to get back to it. There's something that will be achieved by this. I'm not sure what it is yet but I know that I know that I know that God is busy working something in me through this process like He did with the previous blog.

I started the last one with the aim to vent and heal. This time, I'm just posting about things that are important to me.

You know when I think back to what things were like 2+ years ago, I'm amazed at how God has changed me and worked on me through that pain. He is so amazing! He turned it. He really did turn it. My crying days are behind me, my dancing days are right now. My sorrow was turned to joy, my mourning to dancing. Even though things looked bad, I've come to realize that God always knows what He's doing. Nothing about what was happening was a surprise to Him. He had it under control. Sometimes we drift through life complaining and feeling so much pity for ourselves because of what we don't have or haven’t yet done that we don't see the wood for the trees. Everything happens for a purpose, whether it's good or bad.

I've actually grown to a place spiritually, mentally and emotionally that I'm so utterly dependent on God. It wasn't an easy journey to get to this point but it was worth it. His presence is becoming as real to me as the air I breathe and sometimes I wonder how people go through life without ever depending on God. The one who created them. People nowadays live life so disconnected from their Source and think it's OK but when things go wrong they don't get why. If everyone took the time to discover who God is, re-position Him in their lives from being the last resort to the first and what His perfect will for their lives is, we'd really far less depressed, lost and unhappy people.

It's been such as amazing 2014 so far that I wouldn't know what to tell you or where to start. I just believe this is just the beginning.

Biggest thing I've learnt this year is not to limit my Father or doubt Him or myself for that matter. Me doubting myself or limiting myself is me not trusting what He's given me; the gifts and talents I have been given to succeed. He's always there and He'll catch me when I fall. All I have to do is trust Him fully, wholly and unquestionably.

God is not done with me yet!

THE BEST IS YET TO COME!!